Do you have self-compassion?
Whether you do or not, does it make a difference to life success?
I have pondered this question a lot and from my experience with career and corporate clients, the answer is definitely not dependant on status or hierarchy. In fact, success can come despite your level of self-appreciation. I have known top executives who mask their low self-esteem but it hasn’t stopped them climb the corporate ladder and then others who are almost stuck in that feeling of low self-worth and then have difficulty getting out of that rut. Sometimes people mask low self-acceptance with other behaviours such as striving for continuous self-improvement, never feeling that their achievements are enough. Whatever the coping mechanism, it is good to take stock of where you sit in this conundrum because appreciating yourself can empower you in your personal life and career. Who really wants to go about their day masking or not being authentic? It just isn’t wholehearted living. So read on for some tips.
I want to offer some resource references either for you or for a colleague or family member, someone you know whom this might help:
- Firstly, a top book is “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene Brown. Brene has many other books too but this one is rich in wisdom and stories for digging deep and embracing who you are. Brene talks of self-compassion and refers to a great online resource which I encourage you to explore.
- Dr Kristin Neff provides a complementary on-line self-compassion questionnaire and then once you have the results she also has exercises for you to follow.
“There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in”. These lines are for us all to see another perspective and who better to provide this view but Leonard Cohen in Anthem. Make the most of the 6 minutes to listen and reflect.
About Fran Whittingham
Fran has been career coaching and consulting for 17 years helping people find the right fit for the right job. She has countless stories of people in career transition, square pegs in round holes, and people with their ladders against the wrong wall. Has this ever happened to you? Tell us about your experiences here.
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